Saying NO a nice way? Can there be a way of rejecting someone politely?S called me several times before. We communicated via sms before too. S called me because she is down and yet also interested in me. But we never once went on a date together. I knew the consequences, for she is not my type of girl and I did not want to give the wrong impression.
Recently, she called again. I guessed she picked up the courage again. This time, she asked, in a more blatant manner, whether I will give her a chance. What chance? I told her that we are not even friends. I added that we should try being friends first, before we discuss about giving chance to a possible relationship.
Maybe some girls just don't get it. The question about 'giving chances' was repeated for 5 times. Time and time again, I had to explain what a friendship comprises, and hinted that I am far from being interested. Afterall, I had explained to her on a similar issue several months ago.
I was at my wits end. I paused & searched for the best possible answer. "I am interested in another girl right now." That said it all. I added, "I am hoping to focus on this."
That crushed most of her hopes. A little still lingered. Will that lingering hope come and haunt me again?Sighs, it's an art to say no. Saying NO the most direct way is blunt and cruel. More importantly, I learnt that there's never a nice way to say no. Either I learn to reject others or regret will learn to find me.
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Subtle way: Thank you very much for having interest in me. (Explain current situation about interests in other girls or not interested in her.)Thank her again.
Or: We are not exactly friends to start with. There are plenty of girls out there whom I am keen on. And my current target it *who* and I think we have a possible relationship going. Sorry.
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